College - it's the place where so many young people go to not only get the education necessary for their careers, but also where they can start to venture out on their own, where they can move from childhood to adulthood. Suddenly they are thrown into a world of laundry, classes, all-nighters, roommates, and dorms. They're on their own, independent, and still think they're in the high school cafeteria.
Yes, college is possibly more dramatic than even a high school drama club! What is it that makes a person who is college age, who's gone through thirteen years of school (not to mention life), to gossip like a lady at a barber shop and make a candle a stick of Carbon-14? Why does everyone have to be interested in someone of the opposite sex? Why is it that a guy and a girl can't walk to class together or sit at a table together without people all around them talking about them as though they were a couple? Can a person move to another room without someone thinking that she's got a grudge against someone else? Can someone be just having a rough day without someone thinking the person has an incurable disease?
So many people think that they are automatically grown up when they get to college. However it seems that so many people who go to college haven't gotten out of the high school years of their lives. They still pretend that they are better than others. Upper classmen treat freshmen as though they were lower than cattle. Girls think that every guy is in love with them. Guys think they can get any girl they want despite their perverted or disrespectful remarks. Friends accuse friends of crimes not committed.
Are college students really any better than high schoolers? My opinion is that they are worse. At least on an average. They may learn how to live on their own (or some of them do), but how much do they grow up?
About Me
- Jess
- I'm average - I love to have fun, and I'm generally fun to be around; but you KNOW when I'm upset or irritated! For one, my southern accent REALLY comes out! But it does that sometimes anyway. I love laughing and making others laugh, and I love to listen and be there for people.
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Hahahahahahahahaha! Welcome to college. This is the worl of things we will love to hate when we are older. Confrontation stinks, but you know. . .to be totally honest, it's what true humans thrive on. I really wish that I could just walk out of it, but you know, guilty by association.
Ok. I'm going to leave this comment here. So what you are saying is, is that somehow in someway, you have not ever felt like someone had a problem with you, never talked about guys, never have treated someone like they were inferior? Yes, I admit openly that I myself have at one time or another done all of these things. Were they right? No. Am I sorry? Yes. In reading your blog, I sense some harsh feeling comeing through. "Why is it that a guy and a girl can't walk to class together or sit at a table together without people all around them talking about them as though they were a couple?" Its college, dear. People talk. It seems to be the big thing at this or any other bible college to see who is going to hook up with who. Is it necissarily wrong? Not really. Ask yourself, if you saw a couple walking to class more than about five time, sitting next to each other at lunch, study hall or just plain hanging out, would'nt your little beacons just come out of your head and alert you? "Hey now, is there something going on between those two?" Its a NORMAL asumption. "Can a person move to another room without someone thinking that she's got a grudge against someone else? "Can someone be just having a rough day without someone thinking the person has an incurable disease?" This, in and of itself shows that someone obviously has a concern for the second party. If I were having a bad day and showing it, and I went to into, say my quartet practice. In this practice session, I am acting depressed, waspish and irritable, the guys WILL say something to me. They will most likely say it out of concern. "...it seems that so many people who go to college haven't gotten out of the high school years of their lives. They still pretend that they are better than others. Upper classmen treat freshmen as though they were lower than cattle." I get the sense you are speaking of personal experience. Every single one of us is guilty of being higher on the food chain, (excuse the term) than someone else. There are some who do it intentionaly, and some who just don't even know that they are on a food chain. It all depends on the person. "Are college students really any better than high schoolers? My opinion is that they are worse. At least on an average. They may learn how to live on their own (or some of them do), but how much do they grow up?" Basicaly, alot of us here graduated from highschool this year. So in retrospect, they are still highschoolers. And why is that name thrown around like its a bad thing? YOU were once a highschooler. We all have alot of learning and growing up to do and bashing un-named people because they are not up to parr certainly does'nt help you or those persons. My suggestion is, do what you know to do is right, make sure that in your studies of everyone else, you keep your own attitude clear of critisism, don't let the idle gossip bother you, and don't be so hard on people. :)
Kasi -
For the record, I am not bashing anyone in particular. The things I listed are simply observations I've made - and they're not all from the freshmen, either. And some of them are worse than you are describing. For instance, the guy/girl thing. I've had so many people ask me about other people, to which I respond with things like "they're siblings/cousins" or "they grew up together." I know it's natural to wonder, but I got part of some rumors that had been spread about "couples" that weren't even so much as considering dating. I think it's ridiculous. And I'm sorry, but even though I was a high schooler, I grew out of that drama stage long before my freshman year. And when I mention the "incurable disease" thing, I'm meaning rumors that are started when someone is crying by themselves in a bathroom or something (not that that's happened to me or anyone I know, but it's just an example to get the point across). I'm also talking about people's assumptions that something must be terrible, or they take one thing a person said or did and magnify it in their minds and re-tell the tale as a big deal that was never meant to be. The upper classmen thing may be from some personal experience but also from observation. I still stick with my original opinion that college-age students should be more mature than some of the things I've seen. But allow me to clarify this before ANYONE (no on in particular, just ANYONE!) takes what I'm saying out of context: I'm not saying this applies to everyone on a college campus. It merely applies to the obvious, and sometimes semi-secret, dramas that occur every day where we live. I am NOT bashing "un-named people" - I'm simply stating the general outlook of things.
I know there is so much drama here in college! As for the whole highschool vs college thing, I have been here for three years and I will tell you what I've observed. Although there are some college students that look down on the high school and call them immature, the truth is that I've seen the college students do much stupider things at lunch time than the high schoolers. Yes, high school has their own brand of retarded, but to be honest there isn't always that much difference between them and a college senior. It all depends on the person, too. Different personalities, you know. As far as the whole guy girl thing, I'm going to have to agree with Cassie. People will always talk. I know I'm always curious myself as to what's going on with "couples." I can usually pick out these couples, and yes, they usually do end up as couples. I usually know enough to keep out of trouble though, (like if they're related, just old friends, etc.) the key is just to watch them. There is a difference in being interested and just friends. It should be pretty obvious! I don't really understand the whole roommate issue to start with and guess I never will. My roomies and I get along great, and I have no trouble living with them. I have no argument or comment for that one. ")
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