Forgiveness and Trust

Have you ever had this problem: someone really hurt you, as in, s/he totally back stabbed you, and you truly want to forgive them, but it doesn't feel like you did because you don't trust them?

I've been in this situation several times in the past year or so.  I've had some people hurt me so badly that it was hard to forgive them; then, when I finally was able to totally forgive them, I felt that it wasn't enough because I couldn't trust them.  I never told them anything, never put myself in a position to allow them to hurt me again.  I would constantly pray "God, help me forgive them" because I thought I wasn't forgiving them.

But in reality, trust does not always come with forgiveness.  Trust doesn't even always come when a person says he's sorry and promises to change.  

When you simply forgive because someone wronged you, there is not going to be an automatic trust.  Say someone is a tale-teller.  You tell him in confidence your darkest secret, then when you are out of ear shot, he tells several people even though he promised to never tell a soul.  You know he did it, and it hurts, but you forgive him anyway.  Do you still trust him with your secrets?  Not if he did not apologize to you for it, right?  Why trust someone that will obviously spread the word?  Forgiveness does not necessarily mean trust.

This is difficult to learn, sometimes.  At least, it was for me.  I struggled to trust several people, and because of that struggle, I felt I wasn't forgiving them like I should.  But actually, I had forgiven them.  I just didn't trust them - and I still don't.  But I HAVE forgiven them.